I'm sorry you're having to go thru all this Sandy, just know that what everyone is telling you is true.
Here are a couple of quotes from 'Not Just Friends';
-People compare & confuse the intensity of being "in love" during an affair with the secure, comfortable feeling of reality-based "loving" that occurs in long-term relationships.
-The feeling of being "in love" is linked to Stage l idealization, passion & infatuation.
-True love, which you grow into, is characterized by acceptance, understanding, & compassion. That is why so few people end up marrying their affair partner, & those who do have an extremely high probability of divorce.
He won't see the A for what it is until the high wears off a bit, so time is on your side.
Statistics are on your side too, I read that "of 4,100 men surveyed, 85 percent who cheated on their wives stayed in their marriages. Only 3 percent ended up marrying their illicit lovers."
They all lie when having an A, so you can't take his word for not loving you now either.
