Ok, so I think I left off by talking about our convo yesterday when she called me baby. I didn't contact her all day, and I was heading to an appointment when I get a text from her. She asked if I was busy tonight. I simply responded by saying that I had an appointment at seven.
While I'm at my appointment, my phone buzzes in my pocket, but I didn't check it until after I left my clients house. I check it and it's her again asking if I have a date with LaFawnda this weekend. I replied with "LOL, not this weekend, why?" She said she was just giving me a hard time and then started talking about her surgery again. (Some of you might get the LaFawnda reference, it's actually kind of funny). Since I was driving, I didn't respond until after I had gotten home, and eaten dinner. So the convo went something like this.
She told me that her boobs were huge to her. I replied by saying "I bet, do you like them?" She said "yes, but they are still numb." I asked how long it takes the numbness to wear off. She said, "It could take weeks, or months...but you can see the results way sooner than that... how was your appointment?"
(You knew it was coming, didn't you ladybug? I really didn't think she would ever ask, but I guess she does things in a round-a-bout way)
I replied with, "Were you referring to me specifically? My appointment was good, it was an old friend from school" She says, "Yes, you...maybe...It might be kind of hard because Aaron might be moving here."
(Two things, I knew then that I had to tell her no, but I was also curious because Aaron seems to be awfully available all the time. Money was a huge issue with her, and being able to support a family...so I had to ask.)
So I say, "Does Aaron have a job?" She replied simply with a "Yes, he does." I knew she didn't want to tell me because she had never brought it up at all. So I ask, "What does he do?" She replied, "server."
(So I'm laughing inside because I'm listing out all of the awesome [sarcasm] qualities this guy has in my head, but I decide not to comment on it. I decide I had better nip it in the bud at this point though.)
I said, "I don't think it's a good idea for me to see the results of your surgery." She asked why not. I told her because she is engaged to someone else. This seemed to make her a little mad. She said, "How is this any different than the last time we were together?" I said "its not, but it has to stop sometime if you're going to marry him." I don't have all of the specifics of the convo, but she asked my why we did it last time then, and commented about how she said that before we even started, but I didn't listen. Which isn't completely true. She kept bringing it up how we couldn't do it now...blah blah blah...and so I asked her, "You want to do me again don't you" and she said yes. That was how it all started. I told her it was because I like it. She said I was wierd because I'm constantly changing how I feel about it. I said, "No I don't, I've known all along it was wrong, that doesn't mean that I don't want you. Are you ok with it now or something?" She replied with. "You can want me...it's nice to have someone who enjoys me physically." I replied by saying, "I do want you, but it's not right. Can I ask you if you are 100% sure that Aaron is right for you?" She said yes he was and asked me why I asked, and then she said she was worried about the sex thing though. I told her I just needed to know. She said she was heading to bed and that was the end of the convo.
So, my thoughts on it. She got mad when I pulled away. She just expected me to be her go-to guy when she needed what was lacking from her relationship. Sorry, but I'm not that guy.
This guy sounds like a real winner. He's 33, no career (waits tables and works as a camp counselor in the summer), he is still really into video games, he can't get it up, he has such a low self esteem that he thinks people give him a look like "What is she doing with him?" ... lol He sounds like a winner to me.
His good qualities... He says nice things to her. That's all that I have heard. She told me one time that he is the first person that ever made her feel like she came first. Well, lets see, he has all those great qualities listed above, no wonder he's telling you all kinds of nice stuff and making you feel so important. He's a loser!
Two months into their relationship and she's already looking outside the relationship to fill her sexual needs with me. That's a great way to start a relationship. Yep, he's perfect for you!
Sorry...I had to get that out...LOL
Ok, I feel like I've started the process to moving on now. I think I've given her a big ole peace of reality too. You can't expect to marry somebody else who fulfills your needs to hear nice things, and continue having sex with your ex because you can't get it from your new guy...
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
