I know a married couple that were friends of ours. They had 3 boys and fairly early in the M he had an affair with a co-worker. They "supposedly" worked things out. He has been the sweetest H you could ever ask for, he acknowledged his mistake and made changes in his life and of course never went down that path. They stayed together. Over the last 12+ years she has been so incredibly mean to him. This is obvious to anyone who sees them together. In addition she has gone off an had a few affairs (that I am certain he does not know about) which have lasted much longer than anything he had going on.
Basically, they stayed together and she has made him pay for his mistake every day of his life (both passively and overtly).
Does she sound happy to you?
Next time you go see your IC talk to him about forgiveness instead of your R. Ask for guidance on how to truly give it. This might even be worth getting a book on.
Just my thoughts.
Jen you are a better person than the one in the story
((((Jen))))
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
