“Oh what a tangled web we weave, When first we practice to deceive” - Sir Walter Scott
Last night was a tornado that I was able to turn upside down and make it disappear.
Who do I have to thank? All of you.
She came in the house last night after work about 11:15. The kids were in my bed watching, Sinbad. Just taking this pirate thing a little far.
Daughter jumps up as soon as she hears her come in. Because mommy is such a rock star. Son says he wants to stay with me. She tells him no because she doesn't get enough time with the kids. I'm thinking that is your decision.
My son starts spazzing out on her. I don't want to go with you I want to stay with daddy. I'm thinking wow this is mess. I take son and hold him and he is balling histerical. She walks over to us on the bed and says, he is coming with me, and tries to grab him away from me. She says I'm tired and I just want to go home. I'm thinking you are home. She said to him. Son I forgot to tell you your invention ice cream is in the car. Space invaders.
I said please stop. I will convince him to go with you. Just give me a few minutes. She walks away and starts screaming. He is coming with me. Son screams back while crying. I'm staying with Daddy, I want to be with daddy. She says all you want to do is watch that dumb movie with him. I ask her to please lower her tone and give me a few minutes.
I console my son. I hold him and talk with him. I said, Daddy and Mommy love you so much. You can stay with Daddy but Mommy wants you to be with her. He says I don't want to stay with her. I said I understand, because you told me that you were having problems sleeping. Your back was hurting, and other things. I said Mommy wants to sleep in tomorrow and it would be better if I didn't have to drop you off so early in the morning. Lets get your movie and I'll walk you out. I said you can stay with me all weekend, and it will just be me and you. The girls can go do girl things.
As I'm walking him out. I tell him. Buddy I know you are only six, but when you are at mommy's place you are the man of the house. That is something special. I get him more calmed down. I tell him I understand you don't want to leave, I turn around and say this is your house, and I can see why you wouldn't want to leave it.
I put him in his car seat. I buckle him in. I kiss him and rub his legs. I look at wife. It appears as if she was crying.
I ask her to give me a minute to walk around and give daughter a kiss good night.
I walk around and give daughter a kiss. I tell the kids to be good. Listen to mommy the first time everytime. My wife says yeah right. I said son remember your the man of the house down there. Big smile. My wife says would you like some ice cream, I have some mint chocalate chip.
I walk to my wifes window. It looks like she was crying or at least she welled up. I said, ice cream would be good. J brought over his girlfriend and they ate the last of the chocolate. She hands me the ice cream. She says was that ice cream from the party, and was it still good. I said well she didn't complain about it and ate it.
Then she said that our mutal friend A stopped by to see her. I said of F him. She was like what? I said never mind.
She asks if I'm going to pick up the kids from her moms tomorrow and I tell her yes.
She says ok good night. She starts to pull away. The mirror from the explorer almost hits me, and I said whoah. Hold on I'm in my bare feet and standing in rocks. Let me get my bearing.
I step away and walk to the front of the car. I give the kids the fist pump in the air. Be strong!
She drives away, slowly.
Now I'm rather p|ssed at my friend A. One because the night before I got into with him how he has made certain things in my situation worse. I asked to repair those things. One of the hot buttons I had with him was one time my wife accussed me of looking at porn. I said I don't look at porn. My friend A would always laugh and say yeah right he looks at it all the time. I would always say no I don't you F'r and don't say that sh|t to her because she doesn't think you are joking.
I also talked to him about other things that were messed up. For one him and I would drink together. He would always come over my house and just hang out. He helped a great deal with the addition. My kids absolutely love him.
One of my chief arguments with him is he plays both sides of the fence with her. I know you don't want to take sides A, but you are hurting the situation. He siad everytime she asks about you and I try to tell her that you are hurting, missing her, and depressed. She gets mad at me and asks me not to tell her anything. Other times I have tried to tell her that when we would go out to eat at the bars that all I did was eat, have a couple of beers and came right home. Nothing ever happened. She would scream at him and say I don't want to hear it. So he didn't know what to do.
Then last night I did tell him to just stay away from her then, or if you do interact with her and she asks how I'm doing or what mood I'm in. Say talk to him about it. So why did he go behind my back last night and show up at the ice cream store.
Trying to help, or he really just in love with my wife. Like I said he would call her while I was at work and ask her for womanly advice about girls he was chasing.
I called him, because I was pissed. I got his voice mail. I said cuz, what's up give me a call.
Well here is the deal. I went to the club and took my guitar. I sat on the couches there and played. I had about five people come up to me and request something. One guy came over and said I thought the jukebox was on.
I texted her. Good night, Is he alight. She text back. Yes.
(THEN I GET STUPID) I text. Cool, Good night. I love you.
Nothing from her. But five minutes later I get another Yes.
I text Yes to what. She text, He is fine.
The harp... The guitar is driving out misery. I played one of my orginal songs. No signing, just a flat out super jam. I was shaking, like something was released from my soul.
Bad thing is I stayed out too late. I'm not tired, and only got about five hours of sleep.
Ok before some of you people start smaking me on the head. Consider this. This is a dynamic with the kids. Son doesn't want to be with her and wants to be with me. That is killing her. I know this because we were watched her cousins kid all the time. She would always be so sad for our little cousin when he would cry for her not to leave him. She said it is so sad how he just wants to be with her and she wants nothing to do with him.
Wow, history repeating itself in her. But son doesn't want her, he wants me.