Michele gave you some good words of wisdom. It seems like he is much too angry right now to be his friend. Going dark might be a good way to help "cool" things down a bit. If you do have conversations with your H and it starts heading away from a peaceful one then find a gracious way to get off of the phone. Right now you can not win an argument with him.....so there is no point in having one (even so there is no winning in arguments). Give him this space. Also throwing his words back at him as you know now doesn't work....he simply will deny them.
We are here to support you. I only suggested possibly another site, because if your H is reading everything you are writing/venting it may have an adverse effect on his outlook on things from two different perspectives; 1) he may not agree with what you are writing about him, 2) he may not "trust" your actions as being yours....i.e. he might think the only reason you do what you do is because you are told to do it here.
The best advice I could give about going dark would be to not concern yourself with what he is doing (i.e wondering if he is going to be at the house, wondering if he is going to call, etc). These things shouldn't matter to you. This isn't an excuse to be rude or vindictive....just you have your life and you are leading it. Also, I would find some things that truly take up time and give you peace. This isn't going to happen overnight and it is going to take some time.
And most of all keep telling yourslef that no matter what happens to your R, you will be OK. I know this is scary, but the more you face your fears and put them behind you, the better you will be at this whole DB thing
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
