Hopefully the exchange went OK last night. In these situations, limit the amount of contact with your H as you build your PMA. E-mail, txting are acceptable. The reason is you can write a pretty cheerful note even if your eyes are swollen with tears. The other tool you have at your disposal is his mind. Do some 180's on him. Instead of responding immediately and giving the impression that you are just sitting there waiting. Let the response wait for a couple of hours. Let him start to wonder what YOU are doing. This is simple and you have total control of your response timeframe. Don't bend over backwards to please him and meet his every want and desire. Put a few ground rules together in your head, jot them down here and let us fine tune them for you. Boundaries reflect confidence. At least reasonable boundaries do.
You can do this, many have, the key is to pull back and begin to realize you only "think" you know what is going on in his head. The reality is, his thoguht processes are as confused as yours. He's already proven it by leaving you, leaving her, then leaving you again. Behavior is based on patterns, a behvaviorial pattern is difficult to change. Watch his patterns, see what they portray about his toughts and his true direction. Patterns will reveal themselves over time. They will not be single events or even a couple of similar events. They take time to reveal themselves. Sit back and see what unfolds, take this time to continue to improve you.
