I'm sorry your night ended up not as you expected it will. Divorce is so hard on the kids. They are the ones that suffer the most. If only your W can see that soon.
I hear your sadness, loneliness, and despair. Please keep praying and don't give up.
Thoughts of others are tempting you now. You need to come up with a plan of how to deal with girls calling you, etc. Until then, you will continue to have those thoughts. You are keeping contact with them. It's kinda like the OM in my situation. Stop contact right now. YOu are too vunerable.
Have you told these women that you love your wife and are trying to get her back?
