Keep on with that DBing - eventually the fog Should rise and he will see just exactly it is who has been constant and supportive in his life. Become the woman HE fell in love with in the first place.
Saffie,
This is what I am trying to do, but I still have that fear. I'm much stronger than when I first found out, but I still love my H despite this and I'm hoping he can remember why he fell in love with me. When the bomb dropped and I was a pursuing mess, he just kept saying it wasn't about the OW; that the whole thing just made him realize he wanted to be ALONE... That crushed me. I'd almost it rather be about the OW than that, but it also made me realize that this is so HIS problem. I may have helped contribute to the marriage issues, but at least I'm willing to work on them.
I'm glad to see that you survived your sitch. It gives me hope!
Thanks a bunch for responding to my post!
M 39 H 34 D 6 M almost 8 years T 11 years Bomb: 6/5/08
