That is really helpful to know TD, and very enlightening. Funnily enough I am really aware of softening my speech in my general life it was just my h I didn't take so much care. I am the queen of 'would you mind possibly' and 'I hope it is ok but it would really help me if...'

Funny how it is the ones we love that we take the least care over once you get established. What I mean to say is you take words for granted, of course I would have done anything for him to 'care' for him, you just don't realise that words have such an impact.

Seriously I think it should be compulsory that when we get married we get a man/ woman instruction manual ;\) I suppose they say the same for kids too lol!

M- May 2006
D - Aug 2010
Now travelling the world