The Door That Never Closes!

[ddstartingover]

Treese - someone suggested to me that if I went to see a lawyer, that I take a level headed, focused friend---someone to ask the questions I couldn't and listen to the answers that I might not be able to. Do you have someone you can take with you???

It also struck me that you described these letters as a slow painful death for you..........don't let that happen. These letters are a wake-up call for your H. He is the one that is finally going to have to face the music. These letters are to HIM, to make him see what he's done. Yes, they have financial impact on you, but that is why now is the time to seek protection for yourself. You also have to remember that your marriage, as you always believed it to be is dead, and has been dead for awhile now. Only time will tell if it can be resurrected-----or if you even will want that some day. Please use this time to let go, let him take the responsibility that he needs to take. Let him live in this bed that he's made. What your H has done is not YOU----don't let him, don't let THIS kill you. Pull yourself up. Hug your kids. Look at them and know that you have to be strong and survive for them.

You are lucky, you have a source of income. Get help. Take the emotion out of the process (get a friend to help with this) and get the answers you need to help you get through this. You can. You will. You don't have a choice. When you are stronger, pull your kids to you and tell them the same thing----they need to know from you that as a family you will survive. You need to show them the strength that you have (and you DO have it) and make them feel safe.