Time is on your side. It will take a while for your H to realise that this fantasy he has in his head with OW is NOT all he thought it would be. At the moment all those 'love chemicals' are scrambling his brain - once he lives with her for a while and sees her annoying habits he will miss you and the kids and then things will start to change.
Hold yourself together whilst that happens and you have a good chance. Become the person you were when you met yor H - the one he fell in love with.
I tell you, I can imagine that the first few weeks away from family life and all it's responsibilities sounds like heaven to me, ( no-one nagging at my side and saying "Can I have this/ can I do this?" all the time; crikey, I have even though a stint in prison sounded good at times- all my meals cooked and time on my hands), but I am SURE that with time those feelings will wear thin with your H.
I know how bad it hurts now - I am not belittling what you are going through. I am just saying it is not necessarily the end at this point just because he is picking up his stuff. Those are THINGS. His real 'stuff' - the kids and you, he knows are safe at home.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
