Small update: got served papers today. STBXH is going off to Hawaii in a couple of weeks with the girl who wasn't a girlfriend. He had the papers served today and tonight he was off to Las Vegas. He's living large and free.
And you know what? I'm very sad for what we lost, for how he made me feel marginalized and disposable, didn't value our marriage and family and the like. But, I'm not sad about losing him.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09