Yeah my w also saw my changes while she was still at home - eveything from far better ml to getting on with her friends to dancing with her. I knew at some level i was being an arse and could easily rectify my behaviour.
W even said how ironic, i'd become such a great guy for her but she still had to leave. Couldn't believe it !!!!
I persuaded her to 2 sessions of mc and she said it doesen't matter how much i had changed she still had to leave.
So i agree with pheonix - it's not about us anymore.
Saying that it doesen't stop me constantly trying to think of something i can do to bring my family back together.
I'm doing the same thing- being pleasent but minimising the interaction.
She was here ten minutes ago and if i'm not super friendly she just asks me "are you all right ?"
Nothing seems to be getting through to her.
She did say 2 months ago that my changes had not sunk in and gave me the idea that she was still hurting from past behaviour so yeah maybe time will tell.
Your waw will probably be the same - mine just speaks her mind fairly openly - even said by the time she breaks down her walls it will be too late. Didn't quiz her on that.
