This is an area that you CAN work on Neil. Wearing our emotions on a sleeve is a sign that we are weary and worn from the ongoing drama. It's a sign that it's time for some distance and a chance to recharge. You ignore these signs at your peril.
You know this already I'm sure, but that little cell phone exchange was needy and clingy. It showed her a weak man.
And sometimes we are weak. That's the bottom line.
But it's kind of like the fourth quarter of a big football game against a strong opponent. You ARE tired. You ARE exhausted. But you can NEVER let your opponent see that you are either of these.
You get knocked down on a hard hit - you bounce right back up and hustle back to the huddle.
Always show strength and composure, even though that may not be what's going on inside.
It does hurt to think we've been replaced in another small part of their life. But I honestly believe that we make a lot of this stuff up in our heads due to lack of information from them. Our minds, left to our fears and anxieties, can create all kinds of horrific scenarios to keep our insides churning.
It's all a matter of getting yourself together. If you're responding to a cell phone ring, you're WAY too attached to this woman and the things she is doing. Detachment my friend. Easy to say, hard to obtain. Remind yourself that you do not, can not control her or her decisions. She's on a trip and all you can do is be ready when she gets back.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
