Well, H stopped by tonight unannounced. I am a little puzzled about what to do, if anything about it. He made such a huge issue about only having his two evenings a week, but he's been here every night this week. Monday and Tuesday he came and stayed almost two hours each night before leaving with the kids. I invited him to eat dinner with us both nights. He ate with us Monday (Tuesday was spaghetti and he doesn't like it so he just sat with us while we ate).
Last night he offered to pick D15 up from SB practice, brought her home, I invited him to stay for dinner and he did. D15 very quickly started to feel sick. Her temp was 101. I asked H if he would stay with younger kids so I could take D to urgent care. He took them on a FedEx run. D has strep throat. We finished at urgent care in time to pick up the younger two at DQ----he had taken them after the FedEx run.
Tonight he came unannounced, no explanation. I invited him to stay for dinner. He asked "is there enough" (he has asked every night when I ask him to stay ---- I want to say, I only know how to cook for 5, but don't). He stayed and ate, said his goodbyes, thanked me for dinner and left.
I think I'm doing ok at acting upbeat. I don't really know that it means anything except that he can't cook and knows he's paying for the food I'm cooking. I'm not reading anything in to it, and still really am not ready to want anything more-----not until he is ready to do the work needed to start over.
I found out last night his rent is $1200/month. I almost fell over. I had no idea it was that much. I really hope he's "working on his issues" as he said he would, but I know I can't do anything about it............he will eventually have to talk to me about OW, make his choice on his own and do the work if and when he's ready.
I signed up for a jewelry soldering class yesterday, and today found a stained glass class at the local VoTech that I signed up for. Am planning on going to the teaching seminar Saturday. Hopefully all of this will get me to where I need to be. I do feel detached----not completely, but nearly. I don't feel like I want him back no matter what any more, so that must be progress.................
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Signing up for classes -- that's great! Good for you! I'm sure it will be a great way to get your mind off stuff and talk to people about something interesting!
Keep riding that detaching wave, sister!
M 39 H 34 D 6 M almost 8 years T 11 years Bomb: 6/5/08
