I know your right, I just don't think i Can do it. Im a very sensative person and I get on the defense really easily. On top of all the stresses we are going through right now, the one person I thought I could depend on would be him, and its just not so.
TAL, honey, it's great that you are such a caring person. The world needs people who care. However....
Originally Posted By: tiredandlost
... can I continue to be held hostage by him? He doesn't care, nor does try to even be remotely sorry for what he says and does to me.
He doesn't want to change, I don't know what else to do to wake him up.
Really, TAL, I think you are being held hostage by yourself. By hanging your hopes and happiness completely on another person - ANY other person - you give up a huge part of your personal power. Don't do that - you are worth more than that. You deserve more than that.
You're focusing so much on changing HIM, tal. Put all that energy into making the positive changes in yourself instead - that's all you can ever really control.
Originally Posted By: tiredandlost
I did this to myself. He's going to have to swallow hard on this one. The worst he could do is leave me. I don't care anymore.
There's a middle ground here, between him changing and the end of your marriage. Wouldn't you rather work on learning to be strong and confident yourself, instead of leaping straight to the outcome of him leaving you?
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