So, tomorrow is my parents anniv- 42 years married and still happy together. Wow, isn't that pretty wonderful? My dad thinks the secret is to focus on being a great companion to your S. There's a lot of truth there. I am proud of them. Of course, I had hoped my M would be more like that. But, that's not really possible when the other half gives up. Been reading the 'Spiritual D' (Debbie Ford) lately, it's a good book for moving on and healing emotionally. I've read other Debbie Ford books before so this one particularly resonates with me. I had seen it before and thought 'I don't need that one, I'm not getting a D.' I couldn't even bring myself to pick it up until recently. But, I'm glad I did. Still working through this whole D/'Failure' issue. Also, really starting to miss things in my 'old' life- like my dogs (that stbx has). I may never see them again. I did take my cats with me (we had 4 pets together) which helps but I guess you can't help missing what you don't have.
Me 40 H 39 2nd M- 6 months No kids Previous D, 1st M DBer from 2003