LOL. After this weekend, the commercial just pisses me off. We've decided we do just fine without any help
Originally Posted By: MichelleLT
Hmm, great that she sees the changes and wants them to continue. VERY BAD that she thinks she has to push you in order for you to continue them! That will NOT work in the long run! What can you do to reassure her with actions they will continue - i.e. that the changes are for YOU and you will do them regardless of what she does?
Also, how can you get her to ASK for what she wants instead of pushing/prodding/nagging/arguing?
Michelle, these are good questions. She spends a lot of time complaining that I never changed before. Really, her constant attacks had the opposite effect then, as I felt like a worthless loser who could never make enough money and be successful enough to impress her and her family (side note, she told them about my Harley. Would LOVE to see their horrified response. I have a little bit of an f- them attitude now). Now that I'm confident again, she says she needs to see more humility. Definitely something to work on.
When we fell into the same pattern this weekend, I wanted to ask "well, this didn't work before, did it?" I'm open to any ideas.
Maninmotion, thanks for the tip. I'm out for now but will check back tomorrow.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
