Ok, I'm a teensy bit tipsy so apologies for any spelling/ grammar misdemeanours! I don't think I organised any bbq's though this time which is good lol!
Thanks guys for all your posts, it really helped me to get it out. I suppose it is finding a balance between being the strong, opinionated, ambitious person that I was/ am (which h liked about me and fell in love with and complained that I'd changed from) and being a wife and partner. I think now the difference is that I have realised that things can't stay the same and just demanding stuff without stating reasons isn't a great way to go about things. Also, that drive helps me to not give up and to carry on with this challenge, so it has its positive side.
ITH and Lola- I find the sessions so helpful. I can't afford them that often so I just wait until I really need some direction and advice. I'd say that without them and the boards I wouldn't be at the stage I am at now which in my view is progress. This isn't just about my h, it is about me and realising that has helped me move forward.
Mishka - you are right it is so liberating and really exhausting!
TD - did you mind you w not taking your name? How did it make you feel?
Lost - every time I read your posts I think how similar we are in our sitch's and opinions. I loved our acupuncture discussion the other night :-) Everything you said was so true and helpful and I agree with everything. We are both under a lot of pressure with the added illness aspect and it adds a definite challenge to the situation. Something Jody said to me though was don't bring up the illness with them, it reminds them they are ill and makes them feel inadequate. She reminded me that I wasn't his nurse/ mother and unless they discussed it not to focus on it in anyway - just thought I'd share.
Well, I've had a really nice evening with my sister and before that a good flirt with a really hot guy at the gym which helped my PMA.
I'd say that was a challenging session and has left me with a lot to think about.
