Ditto what's been said so far. Only you know in your heart what's best for your life. You're the one that can weigh the benefits, the risks, and how much you have to give. We're here to support you in what you decide to do.
I'm so tired today. We pulled into our parking lot this morning at 7:00 am, I ran in, showered and got to work by 7:50 (I live 5 miles from work). The short hair cut really helps too! All morning I was shoving coffee in to stay awake.
We left early Sat. morning for Kansas City. D4 stayed with a good friend that has girls her age. She had a good time. I was able to get a hold of some friends that live in Wichita and they came up to meet us. The wife has been battling thyroid cancer. She had a round of it a few years back and just found out that it has returned. She hasn't been feeling well, but was up to coming up to meet us. We haven't seen them in 6 years. It was nice. We went to a Royals game, visited some of the fun areas and then went to see Springsteen last night. He put on a really great show. We did have fun, but I'm not sure how, if at all, it helped our situation. With going non-stop all weekend, it was hard to talk about anything. H talked to our friends about wanting to meet them later in the year, around December and bringing D4 with that time. He made comments during the weekend about doing other things too. Not sure what that was about and I'm not putting a lot of stock into it. Toward the end of Sunday, he became a little cold again. I missed D4 terribly, but didn't want to have to get back to reality! I know I need to talk to H about things and what it all means. I did thank H for a really fun weekend.
We are going to see my FIL, SIL & BIL this weekend. H and BIL won't be around much. They're heading up to Milwaukee for Harleyfest. I plan on having a talk with my FIL just to air things out. I was originally planning on just taking D4 because it was going to be a girls weekend (still kind of will be) but H asked if it would be okay if we just all went together. Gee, what am I going to say? No, I won't allow you to come with me to see your own family?
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
I am so glad you had a wonderful weekend. You deserve it, and if H is treating you right, then I know you love to spend time with him. I suppose down the road, you'll need to talk, for your own sanity.
I wish I had known you were coming down. I am only an hour from KC!! We could have tried to meet up if only for a bit. Maybe next time. Glad you had a good time.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Sue, darling, I know how hard this is for you. ((((Hugs))))
I want you to be happy - we all do. I worry that you need some distance from H to get that perspective - what's it going to REALLY take for you all to live happily ever after?
Please do stand up for yourself - and for your beautiful daughter - to settle for nothing less than that, happily ever after. You deserve it.
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
Glad you had fun, Sue!!! Yeah, you deserve to just have fun and not worry about anything!!!:) I think whatever is supposed to happen will, and maybe all the worrying, talking, and analyzing doesn't change things much? Although I spend most of my time doing that of course! Karen
Karen