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Coach #1566329 08/21/08 08:02 PM
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Coach - Lola's current thread is here:

Stop. Just Wait.

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T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!

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....if it is light and upbeat and presented with a PMA, then that is good. Of course R talk is completely out. I would initially have any contact on a different focus....children

I guess I am expecting too much. Because that's all the convos revolve around - the kids. From a month ago until now I am in a much better place in my head. Our MC told me how surprised she was about how I have handled things. So I guess the little things are getting noticed, I just want things to move along faster. I know I don't control the tempo. Just aggravated at the progress.


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Remember no expectations! You can have all the hope in the world but no expectations. Baby steps are talked about here and also the need to remember that this is not a quick sprint but a 26 mile marathon. Take it easy, realx and breathe.


Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*

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Read lolas thread, you women are out of control over here!

I am breathing just cycling thru the emotions a little.

Do I want to know what the VH Rockettes are?


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I have a small delima...

XH and I had been planned on going to the movie tonight (I have the tickets) but after yet another cheeseless tunnel last night he didn't want to go. We've been communicating great today. I was asked to go out with some friends at 7pm. So my options are and I would like you guys to tell me your opinions

1) Ask him about the movie
a. if he says yes then I wait for him
b. If he says yes I go with friends and meet him at 9
c. If he says no I tell him I'm going out
2) Don't ask him and go with friends (F the movie)
3) Don't ask him and wait til they get home for him to suggest

Note that number 1 has 3 smaller options.


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The VH rockettes are us girls who post to Jeff (virtally handsome)


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The Separated forum is 50% fun and 50% DBing....of course even when we're having fun we are technically DBing \:\)


Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*

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How were things left when you last spoke. Was he still coming by later?

I say if your time was left free, then go out with friends. Don't hang in limbo waiting for him. That's not too attractive.


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He's at the club with D. After they leave he has to drop off some paperwork and then he was coming here with D. If we go to the movie then D has to stay with his parents which would need to be settled soon.

We've been getting along great but my XH is stubborn so he might stick to his guns and not want to go. Should I send him a message and ask him?


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The thing is I have the tickets and the original plan was the movie.


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