YES IT WAS YOU! Without a doubt, there are other factors, but you are the glue to the whole thing. Believe in yourself and what your desires are. Confidence is very alluring!
You continue to focus on you and the kids, in that order. You develop a patient, caring but distant attitude in regard to your H. Give him space, he knows he is screwing up, he knows how this will affect his family, his rights, his time as a Dad. He knows it all, at the moment he thinks running from the issue is the answer, he views it as the easiest way for everyone. What he doesn't realize is a D makes nothing go away, the contact with kids, family, in-laws, mutual friends, all of it never ends.
His running back is very typical, his comments to you are written over and over on this board, they are "text book" responses to similar situations.
Keep your focus on YOUR desires, don't worry yourself with what may or may not be going on in his head. There is no way you can know. Take great pride in your comittment, your dignity and your character, these are the things that will pay huge dividends moving forward.
Hugs to you Sandy, I know these are difficult days.
