Bethie...that was a powerful post...and you are 100% right. At times, even tho' she filed a false police report, I find myself stuck on a fragment of hope. It really isn't there. She is resolute now...even found out yesterday that SHE made the appt. to bring the kids to the law guardian.
To Kerry....the LG is an attorney....for the children. They used to be able to make recommendations to the judge, but, now they just present evidence. I went in to the meeting..trying to be limited...and just reply to questions..but..the atty sat there with a pad and wanted me to explain why the full custody and explain the psychological stuff. I found myself tellng her all the incidents from the past...and....I hope it didn't work against me...I got emotional when I told her the story about my W putting the ring on my finger in front of S7...and then she renegged. She seemed most bothered by my STBXW's change in religion and flipflopping between a cross and a star. I also told her that..without going into details...that I would change my job and throw away my career to find a better one with more time for the kids.
Funny thing...at the end..she told me that she was confused by this because:
My W told her what a great guy, husband and father I was. When I showed shock....I said told her how much anger she had and she sad my W said nothing about that.
Perhaps they told her to remain cool and calm and now I LOOK LIKE THE EMOTIONAL IDIOT?
Frank_D...you know me now..what do YOU think?
Finally, as things become more clear..it's funny how we hold on to little things and change things into positives....babysteps...when they really aren't.
Eg, I've festered here about why...why..my W still has all her wedding photos out on her dresser top. Why? Hope? Babysteps? Confusion? Why is the photo of us running in the sand along in the beach in gown and tux at sunset...still up?
No..it's not babysteps, hope, confusion, etc. I know you will all jump down on me for this...but..I understand now. It's a form of punishment...or hurt..to inflict on me.
No...I am not paranoid or anything else...just seeing clearer. I believe that is why.
Finally, I received a message to call this CEO...returned the call expecting to hear a 'sorry but we're not interested'. He called me back on my cell....all POSITIVE.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
