Hey V - Just so that you know and we don't want to confuse anyone else...in your signature line you have Bomb: Jan 2007.
Around here, when they say "bomb" they are usually referring to one spouse telling the other that they want a divorce, or that there has been an affair.
I know that in your case, the "bomb" was something other than that. I just wanted to say this so as to not make anyone think anything untrue about your marriage.
To others...Vorlon and I had/have both contributed a lot on the Mars/Venus board, and it is really a cool place over there...however, strangely enough, even though John Gray writes relationship books for all stages of relationships (dating, marriage, after divorce, general spirituality, general sexuality), but at the message board over there, it is about 95% women who are dating and having trouble figuring out men. They are normally lovely young women, who should have no trouble dating, and most of them are picking silly young guys who have no clue how to pursue a woman.
I spent a lot of years over there helping those women and trying to help them out. I think I gave a lot of tough love, though. And eventually, after the same scenario day after day, year after year, (ie: why hasn't he called?), I finally felt I had done my part in helping over there and I stopped contributing so much.
But I have a need to "give", and also a need for stimulating conversation, and that is how I found this board. I found it gives me both, and I feel safe here.
V - I am still over at M/V sometimes and I always read your posts. Those girls need to hear from men like you who are REAL men who are truly pursuing REAL marriages with REAL women...the poor girls over there are mostly chasing shadows of men who are too young yet to know what is right before their eyes. Poor dears.
