B - Yes a very reasonable timeline, boy I wish I had done it that way. Here's the totally bass-ackwards way I have gone about it thus far (I won't count my feeble attempts before the light turned on reading SSM):
Phase 3.1 (get spouse on board): 5/31/08 (1st attempt) Phase 1 (heal yourself): 5/31/08-6/28/08 (1 month) Phase 2 (learn to serve your spouse): 6/15/08-date (still learning) Phase 3.2 (get spouse on board): 6/26/08 (2nd attempt) Phase 3.3 (get spouse on board): 8/10/08 (3rd attempt, MC?) Phase 3.4 (get spouse on board): 8/20/08 (4th attempt) Phase 4 (working together): have not yet reached this phase
As you can see by jumping the gun to get your spouse on board it really seems like nagging to them. DO NOT USE MY TIMELINE AS A MODEL FOR SUCCESS! If anything at least I am an example of how not to go about it.
