However I believe I am working it properly with the kids. I told them to call me. I tell them to call me all the time. She can't throw it in my face that I don't want to be with them. She has said this stuff in the past. You would rather hang out with J then be with your own kids.
So I'm saying this stuff in front of my wife. I'm not calling the wifes phone. I do not bother with her. On days I don't have the kids and, she wants to be an idiot, I tell them to call me but they don't.
I also told her parents to have the kids call me. Because my wife told me not to call down her parents house. So now her parents have failed me on this little request. Yes, I know my children will forget.
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Do not get upset when your d wants to stay with her grandparents
I'm not upset. It causes anxiety, and MIL is playing her role. Didn't I say she had a big smile on her face when my daughter said she was staying over. My MIL manipulates my children to stay with her. I seen her do it right in front of my eyes. She looked at my son in the eyes and said didn't you tell grandma that you wanted to stay with me. Then he got all sad. She brandished him with a finger and made him admit what he may have said an hour before. He is six. Then when he saw me, he saw fun disney dad. My daughter has only stayed over our house for one night since wife left. However daughters has stayed over multiple nights at in laws.
It only proves again that my wife doesn't want to be a mother. She doesn't want to be a wife.
My son even said to me last night that he wanted to stay with me. I told him no. Because I needed sleep tonight. If he stays with me he kicks me all night. Because he will not sleep in his own bed. Then he even said to me, that he doesn't want to be around his mother because he annoys her. The children annoy her now. She only had my son last night. She didn't see daughter in a 24 hour period. She did it last week didn't see her daughter for two days. This is not typical behavior of my wife. My wife was an overprotective mother who wouldn't leave the childrens side for less then five minutes. Constant eye on them. She will not even allow them to play outside and they must be in direct view.
Even if daughter was on the ball field. My wife would ask me if I could see her.
I am detaching. She is gone. She isn't coming back. I don't want her to come back. Because she can not act the way she did and expect me to take it. Now she has broken the ultimate in loyalty with me. She needs to grow up and be a woman.
That may never happen.
I am listening to the people on this board.
I think I found something that works. I texting my son pirate phrases, and he is having her text back.
Yo ho! 15 men and a deadmens chest. Yo ho ho and a bottle of rum.
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You have received a lot of great advice from a lot of wonderful
No I have received advice. A lot of it isn't great, some of it is. No, sorry there has been a few wonderful people, others have not been wonderful.
Yes insolence. I'm a Pirate! So sorry, pleased to meet your acquintance. I would surely acquiesce ye proper advice.
