The first thing you need to do is detach. You cannot control your w only yourself. You have to be the adult. Do not get upset when your d wants to stay with her grandparents. Your children are also hurting. They do not know how to express how they are feeling. Imagine how confused they must be. Your remarks to them about making things harder for you or getting offended because your d does not call, do not help. Your children need you even from a distance. Be there for them. They need to know that they can come to you. Show them unconditional love. If you want your w back then show her unconditional love.
You have received a lot of great advice from a lot of wonderful people on this board. Please listen to them.
