To get a D, in my eyes, you have to earn it and it's not going to be easy.
Ain't that the truth, Phoenix!!!!! I feel so bad for your kids ... they must be so torn. However, they'll pull through because they have a dad who is putting them first. Your boys are at an age when they really need their dad as a constant presence in their lives. I know you will make sure they have that as much as you possibly can. Of course, your daughters also need you as much, but for different reasons. Lucky them, they will probably marry someone like you, while your boys will emulate your example as a man, so their wives are very lucky too.
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It's hard for me to just keep my mouth shut and not be negative.
Good for you! It is pointless now to say anything. The kids seem to know whose driving the D bus, so keep taking the high road.
You've got a hot tub?!!!!! Awesome!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
A lot of people are having a hard time getting their mind around what has happen to me. I have tried not to say too much. Many have said how proud they are of how I have handled it. The statement, "well, she'll have to answer for that", seems to be the phrase of the week. Those who have been down this messy path before sure cringe when they see the choice XW has made. I wouldn't want to be in her shoes either.
You are right, kids seem to be more attached to me than ever, except for D18. I think she doesn't want to feel like she is bailing on XW. I'm not going to push that one either way, it's something D18 is going to have to sort out.
Anyhow, the trip was good. Glad to be back, but miss the excitement of Vegas. My travel companions were always trying to "help me heal". I had a good time, but behaved. Wasn't about to go out and cause new problems.
What's W up to these days? still have om for euphoria?
How's your hot tub?
Vegas - got any travel tips? I was told by friends that next year is the 50th anniversary of NFR and that matches my age next year too so it will be a 'must' trip. Yikes!
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
I've been kind of stepping back and getting my feet under myself. XW is staying fairly busy with her "group" from work and getting the kids ready to go back to school. The latest OM is still in the picture, not really accepted well by the kids however though. S15 can see quite clearly that OM won't do well with S12. S15 has no respect for OM and is loosing respect for W as a result.
S12 was asking me if I'm married. I tell him no. He says "you need to be married". I asked him who I should be married to. "Mom, you need to marry Mom". Well, I guess I walked right into that one. I did my best to explain to him that this was something that might be quite difficult and wasn't all my decision.
Another problem I see coming is that every time I show up at XW house, the younger kids ask if they can go sleep at my house. I can see that when things aren't going as planned for her, W will get quite annoyed at this. D6 loves to fuss over her Daddy, I can see this is not going to sit well with XW after a while.
S15 is quite drawn into his computer when at XW's house, doesn't seem to miss it at mine. All though the new place is a little in transition with moving in, the kids feel very at home there. I'm trying my best to make it as comfortable as possible.
The trip to Vegas was good. A few things learned. Us the Tram and the Monorail. You can get from Mandalay Bay to the Hilton with very few steps, with little time outside, if you use these modes of travel. I didn't do this the first day and my blisters are still healing. The monorail tickets are for 24 hours and are well worth the $12. Avoid the cabs, they take you all over the place just to go 4 blocks, then charge you 8-12 bucks.
NFR? National Rodeo. Will it be at the convention center? Not sure if I remember which hotel it was near. We stayed at Mandalay Bay, it's at the end of the strip, but it was great. I was glad someone else was paying for the room. Any other questions, let me know.
I also thought that things have moved really fast ... especially for the kids. Their heads must be spinning. Not that you had much control, Phoenix!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I feel so bad for your kids ... they must be so torn. However, they'll pull through because they have a dad who is putting them first. Your boys are at an age when they really need their dad as a constant presence in their lives. I know you will make sure they have that as much as you possibly can. Of course, your daughters also need you as much, but for different reasons. Lucky them, they will probably marry someone like you, while your boys will emulate your example as a man, so their wives are very lucky too. 
