I agree with the others Sue - I certainly would not want you to turn your back on your marriage if you feel there is hope for it.
If it was me, I would be pushing H for a sign that he was really changing his ways - and the best sign of that, I think, would be to address his alcoholism.
In any case, hoping the best for you, your D, and your H too.
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