An important NOTE: I did NOT do this in order to try to save my marriage, nor out of any vindictiveness. I had already resigned myself to the fact that my wife was having an affair, our daughters already knew it, and her parents already knew it. And I had little hope for our marriage at that point (although we since reconciled).
That wasn't the basis of my stand for the TRUTH. What I did was, to stop fighting to bust up the affair itself, and fight instead for our whole family to at least start dealing with the TRUTH. I told her that we had never taught our children to lie, and that no matter WHAT happened between her and me moving forward, we would have to co-parent our children, and that "a family cannot be built on a foundation of deceit."
She agreed. Kicking and screaming, but she agreed.
