Through most of the sep we had spent time with each other pretty much every day. I had always contended that this was the weirdest sep I had ever heard of. I think the biggest thing is that we had been emotionally sep for several months. As a little bit of time progressed, the time we spent together was filled with less tension and the duration was increased. We actually spent a night together as well (no physical contact). Near the end of my week with the kids, my W called me and invited me over for our Traditional wine night on Sunday evenings. She then followed it up with “You might as come back, all men are a-holes, at least I know you and you are the father of my children”. Of course being happy to hear this ringing endorsement, I followed it up with “yeah your right….besides all women are b!tches, at least I know you and you are the mother of my children”. We had a very nice evening that night.
I decided to continue what I was doing with cautious optimism. I continued to respect her space by only moving things over a little bit at a time and actually keeping my house for longer than needed. I didn’t try any R talks or push for anything else. I still let her lead the way. This eventually led to us ML for the first time in a while. I was so nervous I was actually shaking. I noticed after we were done she really tensed up a bit while we were trying to get to sleep. I had expected this already and just reached over and gently rubbed her back….she immediately relaxed and snuggled up against me. I continued with cautious optimism.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
