A thread called "Busted"

[TwinDad]

AND HERE IS THE BOMB (10-07)

At least it wasn’t a complete un-expected bomb. She discovered my efforts to record and I admit to it and apologize for my insecurity. Most of the same old issues come up, no resolution, resentment continuing to grow. Add in a desire by W to move away and change everything in her life…including me. Again I fail miserably at DB (in fairness I hadn’t found the site or the book yet). Begging, pleading, “Do it for the family”. I heard things like
-You have to want to make it work and I don’t want to
- I love you but I am not in love with you
-We are just too different
-Kids are not a reason to stay together
-I’m numb to you
-You can’t fix this
-When I reach this point I am just done
-I don’t trust you

You name it, and then some. I won’t bore you with my responses….I am sure everyone knows what those are. I tried to be strong but failed miserably. I did stop the snooping. I got her to agree to work on things until the holidays were over. I had numerous lecturing R talks, I constantly took her emotional temperature. I accepted my faults but was insistent upon her owning up to hers….being self righteous. To me things actually seemed to improve and were looking good until a couple days after Christmas…..