I have always been a little old fashioned, believing the man is the head of the household, men are the stronger sex, yada yada. I think I experienced some of the same thing you did, however, after I was a single mom for six years. Learning how to do things on your own, and then being thrust into sharing it with someone else can be very difficult.
But you are right, sometimes we need a little bit of a wake up call. It sounds like you are on the right path, and doing well. Do you find the DB coaching helpful?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..