Wednesday D was at band rehearsal so over dinner I had time alone with my wife. I asked her if she had finished reading SSM yet.
W - "No, there just hasn't been any time this week. This is worse than 'hell-week' (in Oct. homecoming, talent show and band competition all in the same week). Is there a surprise ending or something?"
In her defense it has been a busy week. D is in the top band and in addition to marching practice she has had rehearsals to play the convocation of the new teachers in the district. Also add the homecoming mums that W is working on. They start on the mums very early because so much work goes into those things (it's a fund raiser for the band).
Me - "No, there is no surprise ending. Part IV is about working on this together. Just read it when you can, it's so important for you to read and understand parts I & II. We'll get to part IV when you are ready."
The good thing is that we were about to talk about it without getting angry at one another as usually happens when the topic of our SL comes up. We did have some good hugs and kisses with each other too. Her hugging now feels genuine and warm instead of mechanical and all let's-get-this-over-with. It's a small positive change I am seeing in her.
Part IV is about working on this together. Just read it when you can, it's so important for you to read and understand parts I & II. We'll get to part IV when you are ready."
