Good points WDD, I guess if OM/W has something to lose it raises the stakes of coming clean as well. I also have read, since my last post, that admitting to an A takes a woman down from her pedestal. Down among the rest of us it is harder for her to feel like the victim and justify her anger at H. Cognitive Dissonance is a powerful thing.
It is horrible just not knowing. I may even be able to forgive the A, but the lies and her trying to make me feel like I am a psycho for even thinking that she is having an A is even worse and more damaging. It’s almost a form of abuse, in my opinion, because she is making me doubt my own sanity while she is the one breaking up our M and doing something immoral.
