Aud, Matilda, Jak, You're all correct about venturing forward, to let my W know that I have an interest in pursuing intimacy.
I've been doing research for a poem I'm writing, about of course, the struggles of creating intimacy in a couple who is platonic, from the vantage point of a godlike third party. I'm exploring the gods Cupid, and Eros.
I have to deal with the emotional aspect of these struggles also. I don't fit neatly into the "just do it" mentality of solution-focused therapy. However, I understand that insight is not sufficient in and of itself for change. One has to practice new behaviors.
The consequence of my W's sleeping elsewhere is that I less likely want to venture forth for a day or two. I have to wrestle with the thoughts and feelings that are generated from this, so that I don't backslide into a negative mind state, and keep motivated to build on the positives in the R.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
