After my H's A....long after things seemed to have settled....my eldest went completely mad out of the blu and did so much damage throwing crockery and glassware around she damaged not only that stuff but we also has to have the kitchen floor replaced.
She was 15 and couldn't voice EXACTLY what was bugging her. She has been so good and so supportive through all the affair crap.....and then months later that. She is honestly the most even natured person usually.
Ride the storm and let some of this just wash over rather than blaming yourself for every little thing.
BTW - you are WAY too hung up on what your W thinks/ does still for someone who is done.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
