D17 comes home a little while ago. She's angry about life. She starts yelling at me about stupid stuff and I tell her that I don't appreciate her tone. Then she starts crying.
I go to her and put my arm around her and ask her what's wrong. She says "I miss mom".
I told her that I miss her too. She gets angry at me. I said to her that one of us had to leave because I wasn't going to live with her dating and carrying on.
D17 says, 'yeah, I'm the one who told you to kick her out'
I said that I was already at the point where something had to give, it wasn't because D17 'told me' it was because it was time, and it was my choice. And she had crossed my boundary by being with another man.
Then D17 says "Mom says she isn't dating anybody and just because she didn't deny it to you doesn't mean she IS dating. She says you're just over reacting!"
Whhhhaaaaaatttt???
I didn't know what else to say, and D17 said she didn't want to talk about this any more. I almost told her that 3 years ago she was in a full blown love affair.
This really hit me hard. Was I wrong? Is W really 'innocent'?
But WHY, when I asked her to deny that she had had sex with this guy she was silent? When I asked about the 'relationship' all I got was "It's not what you think it is" but no explanation as to what it IS.
I TOLD her that since she broke our 'no dating no sex' agreement she had to leave. She never said that she didn't break the agreement. She just kept deflecting it onto me instead. And if she DIDN'T do any of these things then why did she leave?
What is she telling D17?
I'm sure that I'm right, human nature is to defend yourself when you're innocent. She is not innocent.
