I am so glad that you guys are sticking it out and seeing how great it can be. Do you tell him how lucky you are feeling? I am proud of you and so glad you are my friend.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
The day visiting H at work sounds great for both you and your son. My son was sweet to me. He says he is coming home! I signed him up at the local college. He has said before that he isn't very motivated to go be on his own because life at home with us is nice. That makes me feel so good. He comes home on Sunday.
Sara- I'm so glad things went well with your son. I always wanted to come home to my parents, too. I knew many friends that never did and would stay in the dorms during holidays even. You must have a very loving household. Bet you are counting the days until Sunday....
Just bought Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women, The Power of the Praying Wife, and It's All Too Much (decluttering book). Might as well tack on another one lol. I DO love to read, though. I could read all day...but, maybe with this new book I may not want to read all night... :)Thanks, Sara (and Saffie).
Went to funeral with H for my aunt who died somewhat suddenly. He took all day off, got my son to a sitter, got back in time for mass/burial. He came in, sat right next to me, and put his arm around me. It has never felt so good. After the burial I got the worst migraine ever. He took me home so I could lay down and then he went back to have some luncheon with all of my family. I couldn't ask for a better man. I see more and more every day all that he does. I'm really very lucky.
We watched a movie together that night.
This long weekend we plan on getting household stuff done. We also have a party to go to. Just he and I will go. We got a babysitter. I can't wait!
One thing I notice about myself......I'm more paranoid about HIM having a relationship on the side now. Not that I ever think he really would, and he would say how he never could do that....but, because of what I've done, I think about it now. The day he took off, his cell rang. He said it was a wrong number. Because of how deceptive I was, I immediately think he is lying. I ask to see the number and he shows me, no hesitation. He's not lying. I'm the liar, correction...I WAS the liar. Now, I keep thinking what comes around goes around and I will get it in the end. I'm too lucky to have this wonderful H after what I've done. Forgiving yourself, as an almost WAW, is harder than you may think.
Glad to hear things are going so well. I know what you mean about the way a devious mind works. As my kids were growing up I could pretty much guess what evil stuff they were up to. After all, that's how my mind worked. I don't think they ever figured out how I knew.
The day he took off, his cell rang. He said it was a wrong number. Because of how deceptive I was, I immediately think he is lying. I ask to see the number and he shows me, no hesitation. He's not lying. I'm the liar, correction...I WAS the liar. Now, I keep thinking what comes around goes around and I will get it in the end. I'm too lucky to have this wonderful H after what I've done. Forgiving yourself, as an almost WAW, is harder than you may think.
Seems like this is the reason many attempted reconciliations fail. People cannot imagine the other person truly forgiving and being honest. I got accused of so much deception by my unfaithful wife, it was comical. She looked at everything I did with suspicion. At one point she accused me of having an affair. I denied it. She didn't believe me. She was convinced I had her under surveillance and I had hacked into her computer to spy on her. . . No matter what I said, she didn't believe me.
[shrug]
But please don't get caught up in this! Please please please. Keep the faith, be of good heart. Have courage. Find a way to trust again.
Thank you, Sir. I'm working on it. My H is not deceptive, I was. I don't think he has it in him. But, the thing is, I never thought I did either. That is what is scary to me. It can happen to anyone. I need to have the courage, as you say, to let it go and trust. He has given me NO reason to not.
Today we are working together on house projects. This kind of thing makes us both feel good and "together". Sun is shining. It's going to be a good day.
