((Klm)) I'm with you on all the emotions. You will get past this in time, you seem like a really strong person. Don't forget that. It's good to let it out and to think about you feel, that will help you heal faster. I've had similar feelings lately too. I may not see my stbx ever again and yes, that feeling is kind of scary. Also, mine acted pretty cold and unemotional too once D proceedings started. I'm not sure it's easy to handle no matter how they act. I find the best way for me to detach is to change the subject in my mind and distract myself w. something else or to try to help someone else. Give yourself a lot of credit for how far you've come already!
Me 40 H 39 2nd M- 6 months No kids Previous D, 1st M DBer from 2003