LO, just want to give you a big ((((HUG)))) You sounded so strong. I admire you for that. On the other hand... Yes, have some wine and cry it all out in one shot to get it over with. I am glad to hear about the custody settlement. I have always worried for you about that part of the D. Take care. OC
Not that I post much, but I had one of those wine induced cries a little while ago while watching Dreamgirls. And then out of the blue, my stepdaughter shows up and opens the door since she still has a key. I am now in the kitchen trying to clean up my dinner...not that emotional feelings run high in either her family or mine...we talk for a couple of minutes, I keep cleaning, and she puts her hand on my shoulder---I know you will be okay. Sobs now all over for both of us. And then I pour her a ginger ale. God just keeps reinforcing for me why he put me in this relationship...it was to help raise three good kids. They remember me , but their father evidently does not. And of course, the stronger, happier person I now am!!!!
When do they stop trying to control you? The weirdest thing has happened.. stbx has decided all of a sudden that he needs to spend every night at "home". Does he think that he needs to make sure I don't have any overnight vistors? Does he think that I will be nicer during D proceedings if I have to look at him every morning? I asked why he felt it was necessary and he gave some lame answer... I can't even have a good cry because I don't want him to see me upset any longer. My only hope is that he moves back in with ow full-time after the D is final.. This house MUST SELL SOON!!!!
oh.. and, about that wine... I need a whole bottle, please!
Hey, great - does that mean you have a built-in sitter every night? Maybe it's time to start going out and painting the town! And if a mysterious bouquet of roses happens to get delivered for you while he's there??????
Once the D is final, I think a nice conversation with the elders in your church would be in order.
Arrange an appointment and sit in the office with them. Start looking around under your chair, around the desk, as if you are looking for something. They might say, "Are you looking for something." Your answer, "Yes, it seems that the whole bunch of you have lost your b@lls, I was hoping they might be in this office somewhere, but I can't seem to find them." And then leave.
Good to hear from you Theo.. Nice suggestion... ha! Can't see me pulling that off but, it is a lovely image
Let me say that one thing that bugs me like no other is that not one person from that church has called me.. no pastor.. no elder... after attending for 30 years... nobody...!!! I just think that's downright mean of them...
And... yes, we are in the final phase of this mess. stbx is suddenly in a rush to the finish line after months of stalling.. Whatever..
I have friends who are big wigs in both flavors of your denomination. Once the D is final, on your command, I can pull some strings and get these guys in very hot water.
You see, if they are not protecting you, then they are protecting your husband, the guy having an affair and divorcing you.
I know you are not vindictive, but the problem is much bigger than you. A pastor and a group of elders who tolerate adultery and refuse to protect a mother and child have broken their pastoral trust with the whole congreation and their denomination.
