Bethie, thanks for the complement. I haven't located Bulldog's thread as yet. Which forum is that?
Karen, your H was a Sunday School teacher? Wow. My W still puts on the act that she is more religious than myself, like I'm still, in her mind, the heathen she brought in off the street or something.
And regrettably if I too knew then what I know now about W, I would never have gotten involved with her.
--- <journaling>
This has been W's week with the boys. But she had asked me to pick the both of them up from school Monday and Tuesday afternoons (yesterday and the day before). W said that one of her co-workers had a "nervous breakdown", and so W had to fill in some extra hours/patients on account of that shortage of help. I gladly obliged, just as I always do if I've been given enough notice, because I will take any opportunity to spend time with my S's. I picked them up and took them out to eat for dinner each night, keeping them until W got home. We had a good time together.
W could be spending extra time with OM for all I know. But there's nothing I can do or say about that even if she is lying to me and her S's. The point is I don't want her to call upon any of her other dubious, A-enabling friends and exposing our S's to them when they need their father so much more.
As for the OM, W had previously mentioned something about letting a "friend" borrow her "new" car a couple of weeks ago. S7 said something on the way back from dinner last evening that has been fermenting in the back of my mind ever since. He mentioned that his mother got her "new" car back from her friend (which I had already noted to myself this past weekend.) I responded by asking him, "Yeah, I meant to ask, which friend was this?"
S7 said, "OM's wife"
Confused, I said, "Umm, you mean OM, right? Not OM's wife."
S7: "No, it was OM's wife."
Me: "You're telling me that your mommy was letting OM's wife borrow her car? And OM's wife was okay with that? I find that hard to believe. Are you sure you're not mistaken in this, S7?"
S7: "No, I saw her, Daddy, when Mommy picked up the car."
Me: "Really? Was OM there too?"
S7: "Yes."
"Interesting," I muttered and said no more (I had already plied S7 for information too much as it was), while wondering that W was on such good terms with OM's W. Could this be true?
Maybe OM is now the former-OM (FOM) and has gotten back with his W. Or maybe OM's W does not really know about W and OM and their A after all -- maybe when they separated last year she has been unaware this whole time that OM had been (is) cheating on her with my W.
And maybe my W has already moved on to OM #2.
Or maybe it's a lot worse than I ever realized. (I won't go there.)
Or maybe W has been playing me for a fool all this time, allowing me to just think she's been keeping up the A, so I will be less inclined to fight against the D or for the M. Maintaining the exit-affair as a bone of contention between us.
