DQ,

Very interesting (as always). I will comment in another post about "headaches", but...

Quote:

The truth of it now slaps me in the face: he did not meet my other needs and this was the death of my sex drive.



...leads me to ask: to what extent do you (or any woman - or man come to that) "own" your sexuality and/or sex-drive?

When, if ever, is such a concept (either female or male) relevant to the recovery of an SSM or in a couple's sex-life generally?

I'm standing by with my tin hat firmly on. ;\)

S&A


"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.

Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.