Hi Theoden again - I spoke only a couple of times to the OM after being discovered. I ceased all communication 4 years ago. i have apologised to OM wife about the bits she knows, dont feel it is my place to come clean to her. That would be her husbands duty ( having said that, extramarital affairs dont seem to faze them ).
My H has access to everything and i make a concious effort to let him know what I am up to and where i am even though we no longer live together.
He seems to go 2 steps forward and 1 back. Sometimes i feel he really cares and then the smallest of things will send him back to feeling like he wants out of the marriage. I am lost
