Frank....in a couple of weeks, it may be decided who stays in the house and who leaves. Today, I meet with the law guardian (atty for the kids) for the first time. I don't know if my W met her already and what she told her.
I'm scared.
But I'm going forward. In many ways, like written above, I would take my W back under the right circumstances, but, they don't exist.
Frank...my old friend...you must be brave now. Now...now..is when the word courage comes to mind. You need courage...to continue to face each day without your wife. You need courage....to rise above this and take care of your beautiful daughters. You need courage....to still support your W in the eyes of your children. You need courage...to face the challenges that each day brings to you.
You can do it frank.
Each person on this site brings a different perspective. Each brings us insight from without...something we can't see while we mired in the muck. Listen to all here. Process it. Take what applies to you and throw the scraps away.
Think of what mulesqnb writes...something HIS dad told him. "Tough times don't last. Tough men do."
Watch the Hoyt film.....reprocess what is important in life.
Recall the snippets we've shared from Gladiator...the courage it takes to stand up for something you believe in.
And most importanly....remember what Jeff223 wrote above...what he STILL tells ME....that this is HER choice. You didn't throw out your wife. You told her that she should leave because she is NOT participating in the marriage. You told her to find what she wants since it is NOT your home. You told her that she must leave because she is destroying you....she does not have the strength or integrity to honor her CONTRACT with you...her promise.
It's OK' that they may grow to fall out of love with us. It is NOT OK to hurt us, lie to us, violate us or break us or treat the person that built a home with them and gave life to children with disrespect.
It's NOT OK.
Stay strong frank. Stay true to who you are as a man. Compassion. Integrity. Love. Patience. Honor. Humility. Kindness. And don't forget. Anyone can be a father. Not everyone can be a dad. Be a dad now and love your girls.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
