The kids will be hurt. They may never forgive you.
You think you are in control, but you're not. And your H wants his marriage right now, may not be there when you decide to return. Because you will have shown that you are capable of leaving and the next time will be even easier for you to walk out on your family.
Plus, how would you like it if you came back with "your head together", all ready to work on your "wonderful new marriage", with all of your "wonderful new insights", only to have you H walk out on you? Would you understand? Would it be ok for your H to experiment and have a PA with OW?
You are hurting innocent family for selfish reasons. The damage will never be completely repaired. The trust will never be the same. Your family will never look at you the same way. They will never trust you in the same way.
Why risk it? Why hurt people who love you so much? Would you want them to do that to you? Would it feel good to be placed in a position of such uncertainty?
