I know you did not address this but...are you still friends with the woman? You say she doesn't know about the extent of the affair...I just am curious, do you still know her and are friends with her?
I was unfaithful in my marriage and I lived to regret it - we are divorced now (not solely because of the infidelity though). But I lived with so much guilt and regret, it ate at my soul every day. So that is why I am asking, if you are still friends with the woman, how are you able to handle the guilt? I do think maybe you need to come clean to her as well. I know that would put her marriage at risk and mabye that is not something you want to take on but...on the other hand, how can you continue to look into her face and be friends? Somehow, that should be handled so you can let go of the guilt and move on and heal....
