Low desire wives seem to have a reason to put off sex.
Men in general seem to find reasons to put off emotional discussions.
Cinco - it is WEDNESDAY, and you are worried that asking one simple question (have you finished reading the book yet) is going to ruin her birthday celebration on SATURDAY?
How can that one question cause all that drama?
Could it be that you are avoiding the topic?
And could it be that if you are avoiding the topic now, you may continue to avoid it even after the birthday...coming up with yet another excuse for not discussing things with her....finally weeks have gone by....and you have let it go so long that finally now YOU are angry at HER about it? All because you avoided a very simple question?
See what I am getting at?
What reason do you REALLY have to procrastinate, and why in the world would you tell yourself that it would cause a 24 hour per day fight for the next 3 days straight just to ask her this?
This is what I meant when I said above:
"We get the sense that emotions frighten you and make you run away from difficult topics, but at the same time, this causes us to lose respect for you. If you can't face us and speak your highest truth to us, even if that is going to be something we have done wrong in your eyes, then we don't feel you have enough backbone and we will continue the behavior until you confront us."
Darling Cinco....your wife LOVES YOU. She probably wishes that YOU will be the one to bring these things up so that she won't have to. She probably does not know how to approach these things anymore. She is afraid, too. BE THE MAN and help her to discuss this with you.
It is only one simple question. You do not need to turn it into a long drawn out painful discussion. I would advise you just get the answer "yes" or "no" as to whether she has read the book or not, and then ask her "do you think we can schedule some alone time next week to discuss some of the things in the book together? Gosh I am just so glad you are reading it and I do want to hear your thoughts about it." That way, you can have the discussion but you are both agreeing to wait until next week just in case it is a painful or sad discussion.
