Don't know if I belong here, advice requested

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I would say you are certainly not done. It sounds like you have an opportunity to try and work on your relationship. What are you doing to work on it? Counseling? Books? Discussions? Read advice on this and newcomers boards and it will give you an idea of where to start.

For me in a similarish situtation, I have found that working on myself is almost if not more important than work on the relationship. I need that peace of knowing I will be okay no matter what. So take a look at what you are doing, set some goals and stay the course. Reading here is helpful, journal here or elsewhere, find a person or persons you trust and can use as a sounding board. Don't over analyze, something I still struggle with.

Hugs, I know this is hard