Confidence It is the one common thread many allude throughout this BB and countless other places. So Question #1. Why is that? Why are confident people attractive?
I came back from Iraq at 49 in terrific shape, fresh from facing down incredible dangers, faced the question almost all American men do 'If in combat would I run?' and answered it. Yet I felt like only hiding. Why?
Because like others on this board the base which we based much of our confidence was ripped from under us.
I have never had to face an angry enemy determined to kill me, but I have rushed to face danger while others were running away. I use to carry a picture in my helmet (but I am sure I am not the first) of the ones I cared most about. The ones Melanie pointed out, that gave me the intangibles I felt from them. The confidence, security, safety, desired.
It IS how another makes us feel that we find attractive. And in those feelings we strengthen our confidence. The confidence in ourselves and our relationship. The confidence and desire to change and grow. To take on projects over our head and the drive and determination to get them done.
But relationships and attraction are dynamic-ever changing. Sometimes we are the ones “taking”. The one who benefits from how another makes us feel while not giving enough back. While other times we will be the one “giving” that strength and confidence and security and maybe not getting back. If this were not the case would any of us be here?
What do I find attractive? Faith and trust in me.
Jak466
State Trooper: Do you feel this vehicle is safe for highway travel?
Del Griffith: Yes sir. Yes. Yes I do. I mean she may not look like much but she'll get you where you wanna go.
